When their perception becomes reality...

Reality and perception are two different things with somewhat of an intertwining concept. While writing her dissertation and conducting research, Dr. Tracey Holder examined the educational experiences of five black males' perceptions about what influences they felt were making a significant impact on their experiences in school. These black males were having problems academically and behaviorally in school. The primary factors that influenced their struggles were societal, institutional, and personal. At the institutional level, one student noted the lack of instructional engagement and the lack of adult-student relationship. Relationships are important, especially when a concept is to be learned. Think about it...many of us don't care to listen to anyone who doesn't seem to care about anything we say or do. Well, the same goes for children. They need to know that the teacher (and parent) cares and is concern about their education. Parents, listen to your children. Teachers get to know your students. They need that relationship. Out of the five students, only one made mention of societal influences on his academic success.

Our reality is what we perceive things to be. Each of those males had their own perception of school, which ultimately became their reality. They became disengaged with the learning environment. Children do not just randomly decide that they aren't going to do well in school. There are many factors as to why they do not do well. As parents, it is our duty and moral obligation to ensure that our children's influences are always positive.  We have to first acknowledge and then address the disengagement and attitude towards school. As educators we see these students all the time, they put forth little to no effort in trying to do better. However, integrity should not allow one to overlook that kind of behavior without trying to find a solution. After all, that child may have to give you medicine one day while you are lying in the hospital. And surely, you want him to give you the correct dosage. Right? 

The statistics will blow your mind. In Dr. Holder's research, she quoted the U.S. Department of Justice (2002) as predicting that 32% of African American males will likely be incarcerated (state or federal) during the course of their lifetime. That is unacceptable and has been changed. It is very important that these struggling young boys are reached at a young age. We can not afford to have their lights turned off. Their perception of school and their perception of success can easily become their reality. School and home must work cohesively as one unit to tackle the deeper issues that are prohibiting them from their potential. 

For additional information and strategies to improve the perception of black males about reality, contact MOBB Consulting Group, LLC at jchatman@mothersofblackboys.org.

Reference:

HOLDER, TRACY L., Ed.D. Through Their Eyes: A Look at Achievement and Success

of Selected African American Male Students. (2006).